Our updated booklet, Weddings For The Interfaith Couple, walks you through all of the traditions for the big day, starting with two to think about in advance (choosing a wedding contract known as a ketubah and topics to consider when meeting with your wedding officiant).
Rabbi Mychal will be leading us in a discussion of interfaith relationships throughout Jewish history and the present challenges and opportunities they pose. This discussion will provide a foundation for the second part of the series in which we will explore the many realities of interfaith relationships, including challenges we have faced and our varied approaches to our own interfaith experiences.
A great way for Jewish professionals and volunteers who work with and provide programming for people in interfaith relationships to locate resources and trainings to build more welcome into their Jewish communities; connect with and learn from each other; and publicize and enhance their programs and services.
In an interfaith family, the parent whose religion was chosen for the children has to actively practice their faith and be somewhat observant if they want their children to identify with that religion. Judaism in an interfaith family is not the same as Judaism in a Jewish family…it is no longer a cultural identity. It is strictly a religious identity. That’s just simple physics. The child has a mother who is Christian. She has different values and traditions than a Jewish woman. She can’t pass on the prayers, songs, memories of holidays, family stories, etc. that a Jewish woman can.
Josh’s kids are going to grow up being told they are Jewish but feeling like they are Christian. Sorry, Josh, but you can’t have your cake and eat it too. If you want Jewish children, do the work. There is a reason why your religion is passed on matrilineally. Women/mothers are around the children more, and we are the ones who get asked the spiritual/God questions, plan the holidays, and teach the prayers. If your wife is Christian, she’s not going to be doing that for you. Frankly, I’m more than a little annoyed with these men who expect to marry whoever they want and still recreate their childhood homes.
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