Our updated booklet, Weddings For The Interfaith Couple, walks you through all of the traditions for the big day, starting with two to think about in advance (choosing a wedding contract known as a ketubah and topics to consider when meeting with your wedding officiant).
Rabbi Mychal will be leading us in a discussion of interfaith relationships throughout Jewish history and the present challenges and opportunities they pose. This discussion will provide a foundation for the second part of the series in which we will explore the many realities of interfaith relationships, including challenges we have faced and our varied approaches to our own interfaith experiences.
A great way for Jewish professionals and volunteers who work with and provide programming for people in interfaith relationships to locate resources and trainings to build more welcome into their Jewish communities; connect with and learn from each other; and publicize and enhance their programs and services.
It’s interesting to me that the perspectives you share seem to affirm the idea that “biology is destiny” as much as they undermine them.
For example, the couples you interview talk about looking for sperm donors whose ethnic and racial background and even life experiences are similar to their own.
On the scale of nature versus nurture, prioritizing those qualities skews prettily heavily towards nature.
I think that our culture is only beginning to talk about what biological connections mean and how different it can be for different people – we’re barely coming off of ideas like the presumption of paternity for married women and the erasure of an adopted child’s entire biological story (to the extent of reissuing a birth certificate with a new *place* of birth).
Same sex families (who cannot, unlike hetero families have traditionally done, plausibly maintain the fiction that the child’s legal parents are her biological parents) are very visible symbols (and I think flashpoints) for these questions. But it’s good for everybody that they’re being addressed.
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