Our updated booklet, Weddings For The Interfaith Couple, walks you through all of the traditions for the big day, starting with two to think about in advance (choosing a wedding contract known as a ketubah and topics to consider when meeting with your wedding officiant).
Rabbi Mychal will be leading us in a discussion of interfaith relationships throughout Jewish history and the present challenges and opportunities they pose. This discussion will provide a foundation for the second part of the series in which we will explore the many realities of interfaith relationships, including challenges we have faced and our varied approaches to our own interfaith experiences.
A great way for Jewish professionals and volunteers who work with and provide programming for people in interfaith relationships to locate resources and trainings to build more welcome into their Jewish communities; connect with and learn from each other; and publicize and enhance their programs and services.
I am married to a non jew and have three daughters by my first wife.
My youngest daughter is to be married in the Orthodox Shul in a month and I have been barred by the Beth Din in walking my daughter down the aisle to her Chuppah
I was however allowed to do so when my middle daughter married also in the Orthodox Shul 7 years ago.
When did this policy change?
We have tried to ask for leniency but have been turned down and ignored.
This has caused huge divisions in the family
We live in South Africa
Please advise me
I’m sorry to hear you’re having a hard time with your local beit din. As best I can tell, there is no universal policy prohibiting mothers who have intermarried from walking their children to the chuppah in the Orthodox world. However, within Orthodoxy these decisions are made by individual rabbis or through a local beit din. It’s possible that one of the current members of your beit din has changed their approach since your middle daughter married and you were permitted to walk down the aisle with her. It might be worth talking with the rabbi at the Orthodox shul where the wedding will take place. Remind him that you are Jewish, you raised Jewish children who have chosen to marry within the Orthodox world, and make your request again. At the very least, you might find out why the rabbi has turned down your request.
Best of luck – and mazel tov on the upcoming wedding!