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April 10, 2009 at 4:08 pm #541


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November 23, 2010 at 3:03 pm #5234

Cathy Moriticia

While both “traditions” are very nice, side-by-side, and all is well between the families and handled very rationally and with great civility, it’s not a difficult thing to explain to children….BUT, how do you and your husband, and other families, explain, not the traditions (children are very good with that), but the “accepting Jesus as one’s savior” belief and Jewish religion and philosophy NOT believing or thinking about the contradictions and eschewing Jesus–this is the real dilemma, not the traditions. This is something children cannot handle, nor can many adults. The “savior” thing is not a Jewish tradition, it is a non-issue and therein lies the problem.

November 23, 2010 at 4:22 pm #5235

Benjamin Maron


That’s a great question. We have some articles on our site that address that – explaining Christian belief/understanding of Jesus to Jewish family/children. You might find the following articles helpful, both for the questions they raise and the approaches they suggest:
God and Jesus in an Extended Interfaith Family;
How to Talk to Your Kids about Jesus;
Yours, Mine and Ours: Explaining My Christian Beliefs to My Jewish Husband and Children;
How Can I Embrace the December Holidays without Offending My Jewish Family?.

November 23, 2010 at 6:13 pm #5236

Doc Interfaith

Just like some people like steak and others like chicken, some people are drawn to Jesus and others see Jesus as a teacher who was Jewish… Its not hard to explain that to kids… and its not hard to have a Chanukah Bush with Blue and White Colors and celebrate Chanukah with our interfaith family… Just a bit of creativity and you will be on your way.
Have a wonderful holiday season
‘Doc” Interfaith

November 23, 2010 at 6:58 pm #5237


While it is important to honor Greg’s family’s traditions, they do not necessarily need to enter what could otherwise be designated as a Jewish home. The tree can be at Greg’s parents’ house, and all the non-Chanukah stuff could be celebrated there. That way there is significantly less confusion for the children, and anyone else. I’m not sure why they just simply define theirs as “a Jewish home.” Then the discussion of Jesus and savior could be less prominent.

November 28, 2010 at 8:54 pm #5256


First, there is no December Dilemma unless you make one. Second, the Christmas tree is not a religious symbol but a custom. Kids are very smart and will figure these things out unless there is a big deal made. Relax and enjoy!

November 30, 2010 at 6:30 pm #5268


This is my first holiday season both as a Jew and a wife! We decided a few years ago that we’ll celebrate Christmas at my family’s home, as we have every year, but our home will not look very Christmasy. I find myself still listening to Christmas music on my ipod, and burning a fir-scented candle. This works for both of us, our families, and hopefully will continue to work when kids come into the picture. Happy Holidays!

December 2, 2010 at 8:27 pm #5277


I’m looking for some tips on how to handle my Catholic parents who are acting as though I’m the Grinch who stole their Christmas. My parents aren’t very religious and the last few years Christmas was a pretty quiet affair, but with the arrival of the first grandchild, they are inspired to go all out for Christmas, and they act disappointed when I tell them no Baby’s first ornaments, no they can’t take the baby for photos with Santa (Oy my husband would kill if he knew they asked).  I’ve asked them to participate in Hanukkah, but instead of looking forward to something new, they’re telling me I’m ruining their Christmas.
I think it will take time, but I hate how they’re creating a December Dilemma.

December 11, 2010 at 8:26 pm #5299


Having a Xmas tree doesn’t make you any more Christian than having a menorah makes you Jewish.
Hubby and I are both Jewish. I simply believe in Santa. 😉

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