My Jewish daughter may marry a Greek Orthodox

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November 2, 2011 at 11:51 pm #6260


I’m so happy to have come accross this thread…though disheartened by what i’m readying.  I NEED ADVICE.  I am recently engaged, though have been with my fiance for 7 years.  He grew up in a GO family (though his mother grew up Jewish and converted).  They are non-observant though he and his brother were baptised and attended church when young.  My mother is Jewish and my father Episcipal.  I was not baptized and grew up celebrating all holidays though not observing any particular religion. I identify with my Jewish roots more so than my Christian
  Our relationship works, in part, because we both share a lack of religious conviction. There was never a question that we would have our ceremony outdoors with a family friend officiating….but he’s suddenly having a religious crisis.  My finace’s younger brother will likely be married soon after us and it will be GO.  My finace will not be allowed to be his brother’s best man if our marriage is not blessed by the GO church.  But our marriage can not be blessed as I am not baptised and to do so would be under false pretences. 
  I would appreciate advice from anyone who has experience with this cunundrum.  HELP…and thanks

November 3, 2011 at 11:54 am #6261


You shouldn’t convert if you don’t believe. Most priests wouldn’t convert you for that reason anyway. He can still be his brother’s best man. He just can’t be the “koumbaro” who does the exchanging of the crowns. His brother can choose someone else to fill that role, maybe his father? That way it is stil all in the family. My sister was my koumbaro since she is GO and our best man was Catholic. He might still feel slighted since he won’t be the koumbaro. Good luck!

December 8, 2011 at 4:17 pm #6383


we went to greece and got married in santorini.  not only was it beautiful but very easy to do.  we got married overlooking the water next to the volcano by the mayor.  as for the kids you can just choose one religion, in this case we are going with greek orthodox.

January 31, 2012 at 1:09 am #6536


Hi all,

I am in a similar situation. I am Greek Orthodox, my fiance is Jewish and we want an interfaith ceremony. Where/how do I find a priest willing to marry us along side a Rabbi? Any answers would greatly help.


June 7, 2013 at 11:56 pm #14049

Lesley Bennett

I am a reform jewish girl who is in the beginning stage of dating a greek orthodox who also is not as religious as me. I am not going to convert to GO because I am jewish but would be in compromise with him to at least check out the church but not convert. Neither of us go to synagogue or church so how will that work out. His family is like the movie Big Fat Greek Wedding. Any suggestions would be great. I dont want to lose my identity or have my kids not know the jewish traditions. I would do JP or a Non-Dominacional church.

June 10, 2013 at 9:54 am #14167


Hi Lesley,

We have many resources on interfaith relationships that you might find useful, here: And perhaps this personal narrative from a woman with Jewish and Greek Orthodox parents would be enlightening:

March 22, 2014 at 11:07 pm #20207

Marryme in Greece

Hi Arthur,

The Greek Orthodox church does not allow a wedding between a Greek Orthodox and a Jew. The only way to overcome this issue is to have a civil wedding.

I am wishing you good luck

March 22, 2014 at 11:10 pm #20208

Marryme in Greece

You can also check my website for more details for legalities especialy if they want to have a destination wedding in Greece

Again good luck

June 25, 2014 at 3:59 pm #20334


“Ridiculous restrictions by the Orthadox Church”, really Arthur? Give me a break. Like being a Jew doesn’t have any restrictions. Get off the high horse and let people choose whatever they wish to follow. If your daughter doesn’t like it, then go find a Jew to marry. The Orthadox Church isn’t looking for converts.

October 2, 2014 at 4:12 am #20417


I am in the same situation. I see this post is from years ago so I would love to know the outcome. I’m GO and my boyfriend is Jewish. We need to discuss this sooner then later but have committed to each other for the long run and marriage. What do I do?

December 24, 2014 at 3:32 pm #20661


The rules have not changed in the last few years. To be married in the Greek Orthodox church, the non-GO must be a Trinitarian Christian at minimum. Weddings between GO and Jewish are not performed.
Your options are to marry civilly, find a rabbi or cantor who will marry you, or find the obscure renegade GO priest who will marry you.

It’s best to talk to your priest about your personal situation and options.

Good luck.

December 30, 2014 at 6:25 pm #20729


Just thought I’d comment here on my experience… I am Jewish and my husband is Greek Orthodox. We were married by both a Rabbi and Minister (husband and wife, actually!) in New York, on site at our venue. The ceremony was personalized and included both Jewish traditions (chupah, Ketubah, breaking the glass) and Greek Orthodox ones (crowns). While we know that our ceremony/marriage may not be recognized religiously by some sects of Judaism and the Greek Orthodox church, it was a beautiful representation of both of us and we couldn’t have been happier. And for what it’s worth, we plan on keeping a Jewish household…

February 20, 2015 at 10:54 pm #20871


Hi Michelle,

I came across this thread by googling my issue of Greek Orthodox, Jewish marriage. I would love to hear more details on your wedding. I’d also like to hear more info on the husband and wife that performed the ceremony. We are from New York (Astoria) as well. I am Jewish and she is Greek Orthodox. I thought about getting baptized just to “get it done” but it looks like that cant happen. If you can shed some light on your experience, I’d greatly appreciate it.

March 24, 2015 at 4:38 am #20889


The main reason for Baptism is for the acceptance of Christ. This should be the first priority to confront when facing interfaith marriage. I would advise that unless you truly and wililngly convert and become baptized to be married in the Orthodox Church, it would be better to have a joint ceremony (Christian and Jewish) marriage rather than unwillingly accept Christ to perform a ceremony for convenience. I believe the episcopal church could also marry interfaith and is as close to Orthodox as it will get. Before you do anything, speaking to an Orthodox priest could ease your mind of all the scenarios and can take away misperceptions of our religion. The Orthodox church is the oldest Christian Church and maintains a lot of similiarities both religious and cultural with Jews.

For those in this situation I hope this helps,

God bless.

April 1, 2015 at 9:53 am #20892


The interfaith couple will have to decide which options are best for them. Just a little clarification, though. While Greek Orthodox is Christian, getting married with a non-denominational or Protestant clergy is not going to satisfy the church/religious requirements for a GO and will not keep them in “good standing” with the GO church. To do that, it is only GO, even when marrying other Christians. And if the family is like in Big Fat Greek Wedding, only GO will satisfy them. Even when the GO is not religious, it’s like being Jewish, the ceremony and traditions are bound up with the religion and makes it hard to separate them. The most honest thing is to go civilly and try to include the families in the discussion on why it would be dishonest to convert just for the ceremony.

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