Our updated booklet, Weddings For The Interfaith Couple, walks you through all of the traditions for the big day, starting with two to think about in advance (choosing a wedding contract known as a ketubah and topics to consider when meeting with your wedding officiant).
Rabbi Mychal will be leading us in a discussion of interfaith relationships throughout Jewish history and the present challenges and opportunities they pose. This discussion will provide a foundation for the second part of the series in which we will explore the many realities of interfaith relationships, including challenges we have faced and our varied approaches to our own interfaith experiences.
A great way for Jewish professionals and volunteers who work with and provide programming for people in interfaith relationships to locate resources and trainings to build more welcome into their Jewish communities; connect with and learn from each other; and publicize and enhance their programs and services.
If you are unable to find a sympathetic rabbi to officiate at an interfaith wedding in Toronto, please contact me at 301/762-4241 or firstname.lastname@example.org. Also visit reevebrenner.com for my book on the subject (without cost) or at amazon.com if you prefer a printed copy. The title of the book is “Jewish, Christian, Chewish, or Eschewish? Interfaith Marriage Pathways for the New Millennium.”
Rabbi Dr. Reeve R. Brenner
Congregation Bet Chesed
Bethesda, MD USA
pikachiu132: Whether a couple is interfaith or both of the same faith, it’s fairly standard for a rabbi to ask a couple to take either a course together or attend pre-marital counseling. Reaching back to the days when I still lived in Toronto, I know that community is rather particular about officiating at interfaith marriages, who can officiate, etc., as it looks like you’re discovering now.
Is it a prerequisite for both partners of interfaith weddings to participate in a Jewish learning course to be married by a Rabbi?
We are willing to do so, however the course recommended seems very intense and time consuming, and I don’t like how it tries to question my values. Are there any options in Toronto?
My husband and I were married through an officiant from All Seasons Weddings. Though our ceremony was non-religious, you can find someone who can perform a religious, semi-religious or spiritual ceremony. There’s a guy on the list who says he became a wedding officiant to give more options for Jewish-non-Jewish couples.
As for pre-marriage classes – it’s quite common regardless of religion. Had we had an Anglican (I was educated at an Anglican girls’ school) or Catholic (the church I was baptized into) ceremony, classes would have been mandatory too.