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Time for another roundup of recent articles pertaining directly (or less so) to intermarriage and interfaith families. Take a read and let us know what you think…
Writing about a recent retreat organized by The Jewish Week and the UJA-Federation of New York, Sheila Gordon wrote,
In all of this discussion about being Jewish in New York, I was powerfully struck by the relative absence of attention to interfaith families. The increase in interfaith marriage — in large part a product of the swirl of societal changes — is viewed as a major challenge to sustainability. Yet it seemed that the reality of these families was missing from our conversation. I was the only one who raised the topic — and my comments seemed to gain little traction.
She makes some good points. At a retreat on the subject of being Jewish in New York, how could the topic of interfaith families and intermarriage not be brought up? And not be mentioned while focusing on how it’s “a kaleidoscope of diversity at a watershed moment. At this moment, the shifting array of Jewish ‘communities’ faces challenges as transformative as those at the time of the Second Temple, or the invention of the printing press, or the emancipation of the Jews in Europe” seems all the more bizarre.
I’d love to learn more about what was otherwise an aside in this article about a recent Orthodox wedding in Russia:
Ironically, those who left [Russia before the 1991 revolution] assimilated abroad, and those who stayed — often intermarried couples — soon found more and more opportunities to be Jewish and live Jewishly in a country that also was undergoing a Christian revival.
Does that mean that Russia has a high inclusion rate, a high percentage of intermarried families raising their kids as Jew and “doing” Jewish?
There was an interesting article in The Jewish Week yesterday, looking at the history of different Jewish ethnic groups in America. From Jews of Many Colors:
For Jews who may be uncertain or ambivalent about the ways in which Jews of color will reshape what it means to be Jewish in America, I offer the following observation based on my larger study of Jews and American racial identity: such changes are “good for the Jews.” European Jewish immigrants and their descendants certainly benefited from the privileges that came to them in American society by being seen as white, but those privileges came with significant costs for Jewish group identity because they placed limits on the expression of Jewish distinctiveness. Today, an American Jewish community that increasingly includes people of color has the opportunity to re-imagine Jewishness in ways that will make it more distinctive, vibrant and less limited by the need to conform to the expectations of white America.
I’d like to see more about how Jewish, mixed heritage families are playing a role in this reshaping.