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Earlier this year, JDate began offering bulk-rate discounts on JDate subscriptions for rabbis interested in promoting Jewish dating among younger, unmarried members of their congregations. Nothing wrong with that, although the measure is more symbolic than practical, given the small number of young, unmarried people in most synagogues. And the kind of young, unmarried Jews who join synagogues are the type of people who are already dedicated to marrying another Jew. But kudos to anyone who wants to help someone find their beshert–whether he or she is Jewish or not.
Less encouraging have been the explanations that rabbis have given for offering the JDate memberships. From the aforeblogged Newsweek article:
Which makes this article from the San Francisco-area Contra Costa Times a breathe of fresh air. Of the three rabbis interviewed, only one argues that he offers JDate as a response to the “mathematical” decline of Jews via intermarriage. The other two stress the importance of sharing the richness of the Jewish tradition with all who seek it, whether they are Jewish or not. Says Rabbi Dan Goldblatt, of Congregation Beth Chaim in Danville, Calif.:
In Beverly, Mass., a profile of Temple B’nai Abraham highlights the importance that young intermarried families play in the synagogue’s future.
And in northern New Jersey, a trio of rabbis from the three largest movements–Reform, Orthodox and Conservative–debated how best to reach unaffiliated Jews. Why?
The Conservative and Orthodox rabbis had remarkably liberal approaches to intermarriage considering their movement’s general attitude and policy. Rabbi Matthew Axelrod of Congregation Beth Israel (Conservative) “said the Conservative movement had been missing the boat by not exxtending outreach to [intermarried] families, and praised the Reform movement’s more accomoadating approach.” Meanwhile, Rabbi Aryeh Stechler of Congregation Anshe Chesed (Orthodox) advocated withholding membership rights to intermarried Jews and their spouses, but said, “we should welcome the intermarried in our personal hearts, and welcome them to services and to Shabbat meals, even if we do not publicly recognize them.” That’s quite a distance from the unwritten policy of communal ostracization practiced by quite a few Orthodox Jews.
Add it all up, and you have positive signs of outreach to the intermarried from three very different centers of American Jewish life.
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