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Rather than use her column as an opportunity to critique or praise Feldman, she ponders the value of the snub–both Maimonides School’s snub of Feldman and Feldman’s snub of the school and the Modern Orthodox community. Does the snub work? Does it lead to a desired change in behavior, or does it just piss people off?
Wiener certainly leans toward the latter option. Feldman’s case provides a double dose of evidence that the snub doesn’t work: Feldman intermarried and was unashamed of his life decisions despite his exclusion from the announcement section of his day school’s alumni newsletter while the Modern Orthodox community has responded to Feldman’s essay not by reconsidering some of its policies but by counterattacking Feldman with often virulent force.
Wiener also lays responsibility on the snubbed as well as the snubber:
Levy’s philosophy is very close to our own Rabbi Lev Baesh’s. He humbly feels that he is neither gatekeeper nor savior of Judaism. He’ll help anyone explore Judaism, but he’s under no illusion that all, or most, of the people he helps will become Talmud-quoting synagogue-goers.
Wiener’s article also points out a worrying trend of snubbing among younger rabbis. She relates the story of how a couple found that younger rabbis were less receptive to officiating at an intermarriage than older ones. A 2004 Jewish Outreach Institute survey found that younger rabbis were generally more traditional and conservative in their outlook than their older colleagues.
None of us–not InterfaithFamily.com, not JOI, not Julie Wiener, not Rabbi Bob Levy–can say with certainty that welcoming any particular intermarried family will lead them to greater Jewish engagement, but we have plenty of proof that not welcoming them will lead to greater alienation.
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