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Despite being part of a Jewish family for the past decade, I have never celebrated Shavuot. After the excitement of Passover, itâ€™s never been a holiday that Iâ€™ve experienced. I am, admittedly, embarrassed to say this. However, in the spirit of blogging about my interfaith family, I announced to the family that this year, we should do something differently! I promptly looked at Ben for suggestions. He said, â€śWell, letâ€™s see,â€ť and walked over to the bookshelves, coming back with a big stack of Jewish cookbooks. Laurel grinned in excitement and fascination, and I could see her thinking, â€śYay, another holiday! More good food to eat! This is so exciting!â€ť
For any holiday, my husband (a self-confessed foodie) usually thinks first of the foods one eats for the holiday. Iâ€™ve lost track of the number of times heâ€™s explained that, for him at least, â€śJewish holidays are all about food!â€ť This fact is, I expect, a major link to tradition for him as a modern Jewish person. I have learned not to start with â€śwhat do we do at the holiday?â€ť but with â€śwhat do we eat?â€ť
To my delight, though, one of our favorite cookbooks (Olive Trees and Honey, a vegetarian cookbook with recipes from around the Jewish world) described not just the foods of Shavuot, but the other practices and traditions as well. As we prepare to celebrate our first Shavuot, I expect weâ€™ll be thinking about the three things this book mentioned: first, sweet dairy foods, second, the Torah, and third, the Book of Ruth. I donâ€™t know if we will go to a synagogue or celebrate at home, but I know weâ€™ll be focusing on these three things.
First, sweet cheesy foods, which in my husbandâ€™s culinary lexicon apparently means blintzes. For a second embarrassing admission, I have to admit Iâ€™ve never eaten a blintz. My friend Scott in college loved them, and piled them onto his plate whenever the dining hall served them. To me, those dining hall blintzes looked like they were swimming in water, or grease, or something else even less desirable, and they therefore lost much of their appetizing appeal. Ben, however, swears that all I need to do is make a crepe and put a sweet cheese filling in it, and weâ€™ll be set. After all, I can make a crepe-like pancake, and since I can make a mac â€™nâ€™ cheese sauce, I can probably make a cheese filling. Shavuot part 1, check!
For Shavuot part 2, staying up all night reading Torah and studying, I doubt weâ€™ll stay up all night. There are bedtimes to observe, after all, with cranky-child consequences. But I do think weâ€™ll take the opportunity to tell our childrenâ€”likely while eating our blintzes!â€”the story of Moses receiving the Torah at Mount Sinai, seven weeks after leaving Egypt at Passover. Weâ€™ll show them our various paperback and hardback translations of the Torah. I wonder what questions Laurel will ask, in her entertaining 5-year-old way. Will she ask what a sacred text is? (Will that even be the language we use?) How will we answer? Will we talk about sacred texts beyond the Torah or the Hebrew Bible? About writing and literature as hallowed activities for the transmission of human knowledge, emotion and experience? Or will those questions come later? Iâ€™m looking forward to finding out.
Finally, thereâ€™s the book of Ruth. If ever there were a story to celebrate in an interfaith family, this would be it. The story has a personal connection for me because my grandmotherâ€™s name is Ruth, and itâ€™s my middle name as well. I love that the Hebrew Bible includes a story of a woman choosing to live a Jewish life with a Jewish family. I love that even in a religious tradition thatâ€™s passed down from generation to generation, the tradition itself preserves a tale of an outsider choosing to become an insider. Ben and I already mentioned the story to Laurel when we first described Shavuot with the stack of cookbooks. Weâ€™ll tell it to her again on Shavuot (probably over blintzes). As the years go by, I expect that both of our children will find many layers of meaning in this story of extended families, the relationships we choose for reasons of love, and the traditions around which we consciously choose to shape our lives.
My family is one of the many families who benefits from the amazing PJ Library, an extraordinary program that mails free Jewish books and music to 125,000 homes throughout the country. Ruthie enjoyed the program for three years, and last year Chaya got her very own subscription. It is a real gift to have colorful, modern media to use to talk to the girls about different aspects of Jewish life. This week Iâ€™d like to talk about Chayaâ€™s current favorite, Tikkun Olam Ted, and how reading it has reminded me how to boil big ideas down into bite size pieces for my young kids.
The book, by Vivian Newman, is about a little boy named Ted, who â€śis small. But spends his days doing very big things.â€ť Ted got his nickname because of his interest in helping to â€śfix the world and make it a kinder, better place.â€ť For each day of the week, Ted takes on a different task. What is brilliant about the book, aside from the adorable, colorful illustrations by Steve Mack, is how Tedâ€™s big things are completely age-appropriate for a preschooler. Ted does not heal the world by going to a soup kitchen, running a blood drive, or spending a day with Habitat for Humanity. He does things that any kid could easily do in the course of their daily life â€“ he recycles, he does yard work, he feeds the birds and he remembers to turn off the lights.
Reading this book, I am reminded of my own eagerness as a parent to teach my girls big lessons, and to endow them with a sophisticated toolkit of ideas and approaches to having a full and successful life.Â I dream of raising them to know how to make good choices, to be resilient, to pursue their passions, and to try to fix the world because doing so is meaningful for them.Â Before I had kids, and throughout my first pregnancy, I often schemed about how I would engender these traits in them, but I spent more time thinking about a Bat Mitzvah-age service project, or the feminist literature I might sprinkle into a 16-year-oldâ€™s Hanukkah gifts, than what the building blocks might be for a two-year old.
But it is a long time before those Bat Mitzvahs, and that toolkit will be even stronger if I can start now. Reading Tikkun Olam Ted aloud to my girls reminds me of the significance of the things that they can do independently now, and that those are probably as important as that adolescent reading list. Sure, Iâ€™ll keep bringing them to political events with me, and telling them of the bigger things Eric and I do to fix the world in our adult way.Â But I will also remind them how turning off the faucet really matters, or how re-using yesterdayâ€™s sandwich bag actually has a ripple effect on the health of our planet. Judging by how frequently Chaya hands Newmanâ€™s book to me, I think sheâ€™s already starting to grasp the connections.