Full of helpful advice for families starting to think about their child's bat or bar mitzvah, Bar & Bat Mitzvah For The Interfaith Family will be a helpful primer to all families (not just interfaith!).
This booklet explains the history of Hanukkah, the symbolism and significance of lighting candles for eight nights, the blessings that accompany the lighting of the candles, the holiday's foods, the game of dreidels, and more!
Connecting Interfaith Families to Jewish Life in Greater Cleveland by providing programs and opportunities for interfaith families to experience Judaism in a variety of venues, meet other interfaith families, and to connect to other Jewish organizations that may serve their needs.
A great way for Jewish professionals and volunteers who work with and provide programming for people in interfaith relationships to locate resources and trainings to build more welcome into their Jewish communities; connect with and learn from each other; and publicize and enhance their programs and services.
This week’s Torah reading (“parasha”) throws us smack into the middle of the nitty-gritty of the first Hebrew family, Avram and Sarai, whose genealogy we read last week at the end of parashat Noah.
Terach (the idol maker) lived in Ur of the Chaldees and had 3 sons: Avram, Nahor and Haran. When they were grown, Avram and Nahor both took wives; Avram’s wife was Sarai… and her sister married Avram’s brother! To complicate things even more, both wives were the daughters of the 3rd son of Terach, Haran — which means that Avram married his niece! Before we even get started on the patriarchal and matriarchal tales of the Hebrews, we get an intertwined genealogy.
Then, the first thing we learn about Sarai is that she was barren (Genesis 11:30). Finally, we begin our parasha in chapter 12, with the plot getting ever more intense. A few incidents: Sarai is passed off as Avram’s sister in Egypt, Sarai becomes terribly jealous and wreaks havoc in the household when, after she gives Hagar (her handmaid) to Avram, Hagar actually becomes pregnant (Genesis 16:4-11).
But, we’ll leave the juicy parts for another time.
The parasha commences with the words, Lech Lecha, translated as “Go forth” or “Set yourself forth,” a command from God to Avram that begins chapter 12. Just one of many names in the genealogy of the previous chapter, now this one name, Avram, has the spotlight turned on him; we see Avram emerge as an individual character, whose life trajectory we will follow all the way until Chapter 25. He is the first figure we really get to know in some depth, and whose adventures and conversations describe what feels like a real person. He is more nuanced than the biblical figures before him (Adam, Noah, etc.) and because of this, we realize we have moved from a universal history to a national history that is also a personal history. In his book, On the Bible: Eighteen Studies, Martin Buber writes a magnificent chapter titled “Abraham the Seer (chapter 3).”
With Avram, we are entering recognizable human time (not the antediluvian life spans of 900 years) and the drama of family life.
The first question comes right away: Why do we get the peculiar phrase Lech Lecha when God is just telling Avram to “Go” which would simply be one word: “Lech!” Why do we need the 2nd word, “Lecha” (“to you” or “to yourself”)? Commentators have offered some solid psychological reasons. First, God wants Avram to leave his country (his land), his birthplace, and his father’s house. Each of these is called out separately to indicate the degree of the tie that will be severed when Avram goes. It may not be soooo hard to leave the place you happen to be living at a given time but it may be harder to leave your birthplace (your hometown, where you were raised and everyone knows your name). But leaving your father’s house and setting off for who knows where is likely to be more psychologically difficult.
OK, but that still doesn’t answer why we need that extra word, “Lecha.” And here is a commentary that resonates still today: when you leave your comfort zone you are, by definition, taking a risk and stepping out into the unknown. And just as you will encounter new situations and new challenges, you will need to turn inwards, to find new strengths you never knew you had in order to cope with the new set of realities you never encountered before. You will need to become resilient. So God tells Avram to “go to yourself” or to “go forth to yourself.” That is, take a leap and find out who you really are, inside, and what you are made of.
The parasha ends in chapter 17 when both Avram and Sarai are given new names by God (verses 5 and 15) to match their new lives in the new land they now settle in, the land that is promised to their offspring, throughout the generations. And, last but not least, God asks Avraham to mark the sign of the covenant (the agreement they have made) on his body — by circumcising himself, together with all the males in his household and all male babies — on the eighth day of their lives. Whew!
I started by reading the banner headline
The way you read the big print at the eye doctor.
It said I AM THE LORD GOD
ALMIGHTY AND I LOVE YOU
ESPECIALLY. No problem. Very good.
One line down it said PACK UP,
I’M SENDING YOU OVERSEAS. It said
YOU WILL HAVE AS MANY CHILDREN
AS THERE ARE SANDS IN THE SEA
AND STARS IN THE SKY.
THEY WILL POSSESS THE LAND AND
I AM PERSONALLY GOING TO BLESS THEM.
The smaller print said: I am going
To bless them as long as they obey me.
Otherwise there may be
Certain repercussions. The even smaller
Print explained how we needed
A memorable logo for our organization
And he had just the ticket, a mark of absolute
Distinction, it would only hurt for a minute.
The print kept getting smaller and blurrier,
The instructions more bizarre.
Hold on, I interrupted. I’d like to check
Some of this out with my wife.
NO WAY. THIS IS BETWEEN US MEN.
AND IF YOU HAPPEN TO BE THINKING
FORGET IT. It said
BEAR IN MIND, FRIEND
YOU’VE ALREADY SIGNED ON.
Have you ever heard of someone changing their name after going through some significant change in their life? What was it about?
What does it take to step out into the unknown and to discover new things about oneself on the journey?