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It was beautiful. Everything was perfect. We got so many compliments on the ceremony itself–how unique it was, how touching, how meaningful, how inclusive it felt. More to come after the honeymoon.
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Hello everyone… I guess the final countdown can officially begin! We’re in the final week before the wedding. Three more days of work, then it’s wedding event time. First, with the rehearsal and rehearsal dinner, next up are the bachelor and bachelorette parties, then a day of rest, and finally the big day!
You would think that the big news of the weekend is that we picked up our wedding bands, but it isn’t. No, the big news this weekend is that we’ll be able to go on our honeymoon. You see, I don’t have a passport, at least not one that was issued within the last 10 years and while I was at least 16 (or something like that). Ten weeks ago I went to the local postoffice and submitted my passport application, feeling comfortable enough with the length of time we still had to not pay for the passport to be expedited. Well, after weeks of waiting, and really starting to stress over not having my passport, the online status page finally told me that it has been shipped, and that I should have it by this Wednesday. What a huge relief!
I strongly suggest that if there’s even a chance that you’ll be traveling outside of the country within the next 6 months, get your application in now. With the recent passport requirement changes, they are absolutely swamped with applications.
Oh…one other great thing from this weekend is the wedding gift from my dad and step-mom. They came over for dinner Saturday night and brought our gift with them–2 beautiful silver and gold shabbat candle holders, and a matching kiddush cup. Just in time for the wedding ceremony, too! I had just asked my dad the day before if they had a kiddush cup that we could use during the ceremony.
Have a great week!
The Rehearsal and Rehearsal Dinner are two weeks from today. It feels like there are still a million things to do, and only a handful of opportunities to do them. Of course, adding to the stress is work–if there are a million wedding things left to do, then there are at least a million and one tasks to do at work before the wedding and honeymoon! All of this said, the wedding day can’t get here fast enough. I am so excited, and so looking forward to spending the rest of my life with Julie.
Truth be told, I did have a butterfly episode a couple of weeks ago, but it involved the ceremony itself, not the marriage…
One of Julie’s bridesmaids got married recently, and Julie was in the wedding. Being the good guy that I am, I drove Julie to the church for the rehearsal, and watched and waited patiently while they rehearsed. Sitting there in the church sanctuary, watching them practice, I suddenly became very nervous. I wanted to go to the JP, or run off to Vegas…anything but having to stand up there in front of all those people, stumbling over everything I have to say! Oddly enough, as soon as the rehearsal was over, the butterflies were gone.
Let’s see…you know that we’ll have a rabbi and Methodist minister co-officiating our wedding ceremony, but we really haven’t talked much about the specifics of the ceremony, have we?
When we met with Rabbi Marc and his wife a few months ago, one of the things he offered to do, as part of his services, was to write a personalized ceremony for us, incorporating the various elements from both traditions that we’d previously discussed. What we ended up with was an inclusive ceremony that we hope will not make anyone uncomfortable, and should be unlike any ceremony that any of our guests have ever seen.
Some of the things we’ve included in the ceremony are: the 7 Jewish Wedding Blessings, the lighting of a unity candle, a reading from Corinthians 1:13 (I think, that’s right), Kiddush, and the smashing of a wine glass at the end. When we sign the marriage license for the state, we will also be signing an interfaith Ketubah. Also, instead of my parents walking me down the aisle, as is customary in a Jewish wedding, my two children will walk me down the aisle.
We feel really good about what we came up with, along with Rabbi Marc, and are eagerly awaiting the big day! If anyone is interested in the ceremony in greater detail, please leave a comment with a way to contact you.
25 days to go! The final countdown has begun and I’m alternating between extreme excitement and nerve attacks. Let me clarify, though, that the nerve attacks are always about THE WEDDING, not THE MARRAIGE.
Yesterday evening, we ordered our wedding rings (maybe a little late in the process for some people’s comfort-zones, but when you’ve got a jeweler in the family…).
This morning, we had our final pre-marital session with Reverend Bassford. We discussed mostly logistics today. We went through the ceremony that Rabbi Marc wrote for us and made some minor tweaks. We discussed how the rehearsal would likely go, and some minor details about the day of the wedding.
After going over the ceremony, Reverend Bassford said she thought the ceremony was inclusive, respectful of both traditions, and very nice. We laughed a lot this morning, and at the end of our session, we prayed together. It was a great way to start the day.