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| Welcome to our discussions! |
Author: InterfaithFamily.com Editors (---.reonbroadband.com)
Date: 03-27-02 12:24
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| Welcome to our discussions! |
Author: InterfaithFamily.com Editors (---.reonbroadband.com)
Date: 03-27-02 13:28
We're pleased to tell you that we've changed our online discussions--and we invite you to join them! When you submit a message, it will be reviewed by our moderators before it is posted. While we will accept messages that are realistic about the challenges posed by interfaith relationships, we won't allow people to vent their opposition to intermarriage, as has happened in the past. Our goal is to make our discussions a welcoming and safe place for people dealing with interfaith relationships to turn for helpful information and support. So please--join our discussions! |
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| mourning rituals |
Author: Ronnie Friedland, editor (---.ne.client2.attbi.com)
Date: 03-28-02 14:23
Which mourning rituals have you found most comforting, those in your own religious tradition or your partner's? |
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| Re: Rocks at cemetary? |
Author: Tami (---.aspect.com)
Date: 03-05-04 13:05
My Mother-in-law just passed away in December. We followed Jewish custom, the body was buried quickly; within 48 hours (she passed on Shabbot). I understood that Jewish funerals are simple, -the tradition considers flowers and music too festive for such a somber occasion... She is buried in a jewish section of the cemetary.
The question I have is: at the cemetary and grave sight now, there is a tradition of putting "rocks" rather than flowers. Does anyone know the meaning of this tradition? ...why the rocks?
Any information on this would be greatly appreciated! ~ Thanks so much! |
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| Re: Rocks at cemetary? |
Author: Ellen (---.as7.nwbl0.wi.voyager.net)
Date: 03-07-04 13:59
We are commanded to erect a monument to someone who dies. Putting a little rock at the grave site when we visit is a way to fulfil that. It is also a way of letting others know someone was there. Rocks have more permanence than cut flowers, which quickly turn brown, or at least blow away or need to be disposed of somehow. We do plant living flowers on graves.
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| bloodlines |
Author: Dana Rivero (---.ne.client2.attbi.com)
Date: 04-04-04 20:38
TO WHOM IT MAY CONCERN: I AM A BAPTISED CATHOLIC AS IS MY DAUGHTER. MY FATHER WAS JEWISH. MY DAUGHTER'S HUSBAND IS LUTHEREN AS IS HIS MOTHER. HIS MOTHERS FATHER WAS JEWISH. MY DAUGHTER AND SON IN LAWS' CHILD HAS TAY-SACHS. WHEN HE PASSES AWAY MY SON IN LAWS' MOTHER IS INSISTING ON A JEWISH FUNERAL WITH ALL OF THE RITUALS. HER REASON FOR A JEWISH FUNERAL IS
THAT TAY-SACHS USED TO BE A DISEASE THAT TARGETS EASTERN EUROPEAN JEWS. ALTHOUGH THAT IS NOT TRUE TODAY, SHE IS FIRM. WOULD A FUNERAL FOLLOWING JEWISH TRADITIONS BE PROPER OR ALLOWED? I WOULD APPRECIATE ANY INPUT.
THANK YOU, DANA RIVERO
I CAN BE REACHED AT nanadana@qcnet.net |
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| Re: Dana Rivero's post |
Author: BobP (---.phndaz91.dynamic.covad.net)
Date: 04-05-04 01:47
Dana - you ask <<WOULD A FUNERAL FOLLOWING JEWISH TRADITIONS BE PROPER OR ALLOWED?>>
Since the parents and child are not Jewish, I don't understand why they would desire to have a Jewish funeral (despite their Jewish ancestry, neither parent is Jewish). As for being "allowed", whatever funeral rituals they would want should be done by the funeral director. However, I cannot see where Jewish clergy would be involved, and burial in a Jewish cemetary be done.
FYI, my Methodist raised father-in-law passed away recently. The funeral was led by a Methodist minister, whose father was Jewish and mother was Baptist! Most of the readings were from the Reform Hebrew prayer book used for funerals. If the New Testament readings were omitted, it could have been a Jewish ceremony. Perhaps the parents could request something along those lines.
PS.
I am sorry about your grandson's illness. |
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| Seeing the open casket |
Author: Jill (---.statestr.com)
Date: 07-15-04 10:59
I am Jewish, and my boyfriend is Catholic. His Nana past away and I'm going to the wake. I adored his grandmother and respect her. But I've never experienced an Open Casket. Is it disrespectful not to go over to her body? I just don't how I feel and how it would make my boyfriend and his family feel if I didn't do it. Any input would help! thanks |
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| Re: Seeing the open casket |
Author: Ed Case (---.0.53.206.conversent.net)
Date: 07-15-04 15:19
Jill, What I have done on two or three occasions is to walk slowly by the casket. One time I might have stopped and looked at the body, but at least one time I walked slowly by and didn't stop. I noticed that some people stopped and kneeled by the casket and looked like they were saying a particular prayer, but not everyone does that, so I don't think anyone has to feel that they have to or should. I hope that helps.
Ed Case |
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| Re: |
Author: Ali (---.oneillborges.com)
Date: 07-15-04 15:23
Dear Jill:
You should keep in mind that having an open casket is the christian way to give family and friends one last opportunity to look at the deceased loved one and say a symbolic goodbye. Generally, if you go to a funeral of someone who is not your family by blood or otherwise, or a close friend, no one will hold it against you if you just pay your respects to the family without going over the open casket. However, since this is the grandmother of your boyfriend, and from your posting it seems that you knew her, it will be noticable if you do not go over to see her body. To make it easy on you, you might want to go over the body accompanied by your boyfriend, or otherwise pick a moment were no inmediate family is around, so you won't have to be in the position of having to console some family member right in front of the open casket. A brief passing by in front of the casket will be enough to show your respect and consideration to your boyfriend's family. If they are catholic, you'll see some people doing the cross signal in front of the casket. Be prepared for this, but do not feel under any obligation to do the same. I am a protestant and have been to catholic wakes and I never do the croos sign in front of the casket. Also keep in mind that there may be a catholic mass as part of the funeral services. You would be expected to attend, although, again, you wouldn't be expected to participate in prayers or other catholic liturgies. Again, I have been to catholic mass for funerals and weddings and have not participated without offending anyone.
However, at least as for the open casket issue, I would recommend that if it is not otherwise against your religion, you should go over. Remember that if you eventually marry your boyfriend, there would be things that his family will have to do that they won't necesarily be confortable with, but that you would appreciate them doing in support of your traditions and beliefs. |
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| Re: open casket |
Author: Ellen (---.as13.nwbl0.wi.core.com)
Date: 07-19-04 02:19
When my aunt died, she had an open casket. I hadn't seen her for many years, and I thought it was horrible seeing her lying there looking so much older and so, um, err, dead. I think I must have averted my eyes during the entire ceremony. Open caskets really bother me, but the speeches bothered me even more. I flew in from out of town the day of the funeral, and I didn't have to file past the coffin and look at her. But if they had made me do it, I think I would have put my hands over my face. Perhaps it might have looked like I was crying (she was my favorite aunt, after all) . I can't imagine anyone would be offended by that, especially if you have a handkerchief strategically peaking out of your hand. IMHO, being overcome with grief is every bit as respectful as staring, if not more so. |
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The language of Judaism. Used in prayer in most synagogues and the official language of the state of Israel. Also refers to Jews, especially before they entered Israel and were given the Torah, as in "the ancient Hebrews."
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