|
When Your Jewish Daughter Gets Engaged to a Cathol - Page 1
|
Page 1
| When Your Jewish Daughter Gets Engaged ... |
Author: The Editors (---.ne.mediaone.net)
Date: 05-18-00 13:11
Responses to "When Your Jewish Daughter Gets Engaged to a Catholic, albeit a Wonderful One" by Tom Muchel
Post your response to Tom Muchel's article, "When Your Jewish Daughter Gets Engaged to a Catholic, albeit a Wonderful One" below. |
|
^ top
| |
Author: Susan (---.home.net)
Date: 05-24-00 11:18
Do you think that over time, he may be more open to a Jewish identity for their child? |
|
^ top
^ top
| ignore posting, testing software |
Author: IFF editor (---.ne.mediaone.net)
Date: 12-18-01 13:54
ignore posting, testing software |
|
^ top
| reply to the article |
Author: Federica (---.tin.it)
Date: 01-07-02 11:04
I really loved your article for I understand perfectly what you mean! I am Italian and catholic, and the love of my life is Israeli and jewish (what a match!). We are conscious of the many differences between us, and we know it's not going to be easy, but we share something special. My family is not very happy, not because of the different religion in itself, but for the problems that might create in the future if we decide to get married and have children - often my boyfriend and I think about chuppas and churches, and we haven't found a solution yet!!! - and I know his family won't probably be as happy as he is too. But we hope things will eventually work out fine, and we are not afraid of "fighting". I hope your daughter and her future husband will have a life full of joy, and I believe that both families will come out enriched from this experience.
All the best,
Federica |
|
^ top
| |
Author: Bryce (---.proxy.aol.com)
Date: 01-07-02 22:46
Hi Federica,
Would you kindly share with this forum what special thing you and your boyfriend share?
|
|
^ top
| Sharing something special |
Author: Susan (---.as20.nwbl0.wi.voyager.net)
Date: 01-08-02 17:46
Federica:
Bryce was probably asking a rhetorical question there, wasn't he? I can understand that the answer may not be anything you can put into words here. I would like to ask you a question of my own, though. Suppose you and your Israeli boyfriend get married and twenty years from now you have a child in seventh grade. Suppose your child gets invited to a bar or bat mitzvah. Suppose this child doesn't have a clue what's going on. Suppose other people there notice your child's Jewish looking face and Jewish sounding name and wonder why such a child looks so clueless and puzzled. Suppose they ask "when is your bar or bat mitzvah going to be?" Suppose this bar or bat mitzvah looks like a lot of fun and your child feels left out at not having one. Suppose some of the other seventh graders ask your child "What religion are you?" Suppose this child comes home and asks "Mom, why couldn't you have raised me as a Catholic or a Jew, instead of a 'nothing'?" What will you say to this child?
Whatever you may share with this boyfriend now, do you really think that there's more of it or that it's more special than what you could find to share with partners of your own religions?
|
|
^ top
| |
Author: Federica (212.171.87.---)
Date: 01-09-02 14:58
First, I wanted to thank you all for your replies: they made me think once again about my relationship with Shai, and I can say they were very helpful. I want to reply to Susan that if Shai and I eventually get married and have children, they won't be raised as "nothing"- we have discussed about that - but they will be taught to learn about and to love both religions, with all the difficulties of the case, and we will work hard to make them be in the condition, later in the years, to make a responsible choice. Although I am very much in love with catholicism and my congregation, and of course I would very much like my children to be catholic, I wouldn't teach them that loving God means only going to church - nor to a synagogue either. To me, it's more than that: it's working hard to help and love other people, and be a good, honest person. if we ever get there, Shai and I will teach them that God understands all languages and all prayers, and although there might be different ways, we all look up to the same God.
To Bryce, what Shai and I share is something not only special, but incredible. We found each other, and I'm not going to give up the person I want to get old with only because we speak a different language - that I'l learning, by the way!!!
Bye bye |
|
In modern Jewish practice, Jewish girls come of age at 12 or 13. When a girl comes of age, she is officially a Bat Mitzvah (\'daughter of the commandments\'). The term is commonly used as a short-hand for the Bat Mitzvah\'s coming-of-age ceremony and/or celebration. The male equivalent is "Bar Mitzvah."
People who attend and worship at a given synagogue.
Place of Jewish worship, referring to both the room where it occurs and the building where it occurs. Colloquially referred to as "temple."
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Send to Friend
Save To My Profile
