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Dear Dr. Paula,
I am a single woman who became Jewish many years ago. Last month, my mother died. After her Catholic funeral in the church of my childhood, I began for the first time using the Jewish ritual of saying Kaddish (prayer extolling God that is traditionally recited by mourners) to find comfort. My friends and my synagogue community have surrounded me with their support, which has been very touching. Yet, I am finding it incredibly difficult to find a meaningful way to mourn for my mother because I am using a ritual, a language, a place, and a religious tradition that separates me from my siblings and father, who are mourning my mother's loss in our Catholic church. This is the first time I have felt very lonely in my otherwise wonderfully fulfilling Jewish life. Can you help me?