When my husband read an early draft of this essay, he asked, "Why doesn't her partner have to support our daughter? After all, they agreed to raise children as Jews." What does it mean to raise a Jewish child?Go To Parenting
At the end of the year of mourning, Jews in North America have the custom of a stone-setting or unveiling ceremony. This is an opportunity to remember the person who died and give a sense of closure to the year of mourning. Since there is no liturgy for this ritual, it's a good opportunity for people to share memories in whatever way makes sense to them--through set prayer, like El Malei Rachamim and kaddish, or traditional eulogy, or by sharing recorded music the person liked, or photos of them.