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|Introduction to The Bris (Brit Milah)||3|
|Circumcision, Pros and Cons||5|
|Introduction to Birth Ceremonies for Girls||6|
|Unique Considerations for Interfaith Parents||9|
|Sample Sequences of Birth Ceremony||10|
|Sample Introductions to Ceremony||12|
|Sample Readings to Welcome New Baby||14|
|Traditional Birth Ceremony Blessings||16|
|Sample Readings for Ceremonies for Boys and Girls||18|
|Readings for Discussing the Covenant||30|
|Adaptations of the Five Senses Ceremony||31|
|Blessings over Bread and Wine||36|
|Additional Ideas for Ceremony||37|
|Sample Simchat Bat (Inspired by Dr. Seuss)||39|
|Sample Non-Cutting Naming Ceremony #1||42|
|Sample Non-Cutting Naming Ceremony #2||45|
We at InterfaithFamily.com compiled the Guide to Birth Ceremonies for Interfaith Families as a way to help interfaith families navigate the process of planning a birth ceremony. It includes detailed information about what takes place at a brit milah, simchat bat or naming ceremony, as well as information on ways a child's interfaith family can participate in the ceremony.
The booklet opens with background information on birth ceremonies in the Jewish tradition, including information on special concerns for interfaith families. It continues with sample sequences for birth ceremonies and concludes with a wide array of sample readings, prayers and rituals to include in your child's birth ceremony.
We could not have created this resource without the help of our devoted readers and contributors, who responded to our call in August 2006 for suggestions for birth ceremonies.
We would like to thank the following contributors (authors whose work originally appeared in another source include the name of the original publication):
Rabbi Lev Baesh
Cantor Ronald Broden
Rabbi Brian Field
Dr. Samuel A. Kunin
Mark Reiss, M.D.
George Robinson (JTA)
Julia Slotnick Sturm
Rabbi Kenneth S. Weiss
We would also like to thank the following contributors from our partner MyJewishLearning.com:
Debra Nussbaum Cohen
Louis Jacobs (The Jewish Religion: A Companion, Oxford University Press)
Daniel Margolis (Second Jewish Catalog, Jewish Publication Society)
Patty Margolis (same as previous)
Michael Strassfield (same as previous)
Sharon Strassfield (same as previous)
We owe a particular debt to Rabbi Arthur Nemitoff, who volunteered his expertise to review this document to ensure that it is Jewishly "sound."
According to traditional Jewish practice, on the eighth day after a boy is born, he is circumcised, that is, the foreskin is removed from the tip of his penis, and several blessings are recited. This ritual, called brit milah (commonly known as a bris), was first mentioned in the Torah (the Hebrew Bible), when God says, "Every male among you shall be circumcised… it shall be a sign of the covenant between Me and you" (Genesis 17:11). The brit milah may be postponed, however, if the child is not healthy enough to undergo the procedure.
According to traditional Judaism, there is a difference between circumcision and a brit milah. A brit milah must be performed by an observant Jew who follows a prescribed procedure. A brit milah is typically performed by a mohel, who is a Jew trained in religious law and surgical techniques. For many years there were only Orthodox mohels, but now there are a growing number of progressive mohels who are receptive to the needs of interfaith families. The Reform movement maintains a database of mohels at http://www.beritmila.org. Often, parents will ask their rabbi, if they have one, to co-officiate at the brit milah.
The brit milah may occur in any location that will allow it, and usually occurs in the parents' home or a synagogue, although it is certainly permissible to perform the ceremony in the hospital.
The basic order of the ceremony is as follows:
1. An honored woman (the kvatterin) brings the infant forward and hands him to an honored man (the kvatter).
2. The kvatter places the infant on the knees of the already-seated sandek (another honored person, usually the grandfather).
3. The sandek holds the infant while the mohel performs the circumcision.
4. As the circumcision is performed, the mohel recites a blessing declaring that his act fulfills a holy commandment. (See Mohel's Blessing, page 16.)
5. The parents recite a blessing acknowledging that their son has entered into a covenant, or contract, between God and the Jewish people. (See Parents' Blessing, page 16)
6. The boy's Hebrew name is formally bestowed over a cup of wine (See Kiddush (Blessing over wine), page 36).
Many parents and mohels add additional readings, songs and rituals to the basic ceremony.
Mohels are typically very accommodating to a family's needs and will use anesthetic if desired and will help the parents find ways to add additional elements to ceremony. It is customary for mohels to charge a fee of several hundred dollars for their services, and if you need to bring in a mohel from out-of-town, you are expected to pay for their transportation and lodging. The mohel will provide precise...