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While some rabbis and cantors officiate at interfaith weddings, their participation in interfaith weddings is a controversial issue in the American and world Jewish community. Depending on where you live, it may be difficult to find a rabbi or cantor to officiate at your interfaith wedding. You can fill out our officiation request form at and we can help you locate someone who may be available in your area.
We also know of rabbis and cantors that are often willing to travel to accommodate your needs if you can't find someone closer.
You should be aware that many rabbis and cantors may have conditions for the couple to fulfill or consider prior to agreeing to officiate. Some conditions include: a promise to raise children as Jewish; enrollment in an introductory Judaism class beginning prior to the wedding; a promise from the non-Jewish partner to convert; no co-officiation with a clergy person from another faith tradition; a ceremony that does not occur in a place of worship of another religion; membership in the rabbi or cantor's synagogue if they are affiliated with one.
Many rabbis and cantors, especially in the Reform and Reconstructionist movement, may decline to officiate but will refer you to someone who does or lend a sympathetic ear and offer a welcome for you and your spouse into their community. No one Jewish officiant or even many officiants stand for their entire movement or affiliating associations and institutions. While finding clergy to officiate or co-officiate an interfaith wedding may be difficult, it is not impossible. With adequate time and patience, an officiant of quality may be found.
Each Jewish movement has a different policy on intermarriage, so it is helpful to know what movement your desired rabbi or cantor hails from. Here is summary of each movement's policy on officiation at intermarriages:
Your best bet for finding a rabbi or cantor is filling out InterfaithFamily.com's Officiation Request Form, at /officiationrequest. InterfaithFamily.com has access to many rabbis across the country, that officiate and co-officiate at interfaith weddings. This referral and support services are free.
Another potential resource is the Rabbinic Center for Research & Counseling, an independent non-profit, which sells a list of rabbis who officiate. The list is $30 and is available via their website, www.rcrconline.org.
A rabbi, cantor, priest or minister also qualifies to perform weddings under state, federal and many international legal systems. Consult the courts of the jurisdiction you're getting married in for restrictions and limitations on who may officiate at your wedding. Many states also allow family members and friends to officiate at weddings.