You're about to meet with a rabbi or cantor or other clergy person to prepare for your wedding. How can you be ready to create a ceremony that is the best spiritual and religious fit? Our seven questions have no right or wrong answers — every couple who has written about their interfaith wedding for our site has answered them a little differently. We offer them to you as a way to ensure that your first meeting with clergy is a part of a positive interfaith wedding experience.
What about your religious and spiritual life has brought you to request clergy participation at your wedding celebration?
- How comfortable do you feel with religious institutions, ritual, prayer, and language about God?
- What do you want to accomplish by having Jewish clergy officiate at your wedding ceremony?
- What are some of the challenges you anticipate in preparing your ceremony with the inclusion of clergy?
- What are your hopes and concerns in creating a family? It would be best to discuss these together before you meet with clergy.
- What questions would you like your clergy to help you with as you prepare for your wedding celebration?
- Do you have any hard and fast "dos and don'ts" you want to communicate to your clergy person?
- Where do those requirements come from, and are some of them more important to you than others?