Downton Abbey Portrays Reality of Interfaith RelationshipsBy Gerri Miller
Go inside Season 5 Episode 9 where the story line of Atticus and Rose's interfaith relationship comes to a head.Go To Pop Culture
I am planning a wedding for my fiancé and myself, which will take place in his hometown. The only cloud in my sky during our engagement and my conversion has been my relationship with my future mother- in-law. I feel as though she and I are from completely different cultures, and that we miscommunicate on even the most trivial of issues. I don't eat enough for her. I fold my clothes wrong. She feels I should conceal my feelings from my fiancé when I am upset about something, rather than discuss my concerns with him. She is making herself very involved with the wedding plans, insisting that if I don't serve latkes and knishes "my friends just won't know what to eat". She also never says what she means, but instead uses guilt and passive-aggressive manipulation to indicate her feelings. I am sure these misunderstandings are exacerbated by the fact that she is 70 years old, and I am 29, that she is from the west coast, and I am from the east.
My fiancé merely chuckles at our conflicts, and explains to me that she is a "typical Jewish mother." However, I do not intend to be this sort of woman, or mother. I begin to cry when I envision 20 years of seder and Rosh Hashanah dinners with her at our table. What can I do to change my perspective or mend this relationship? I would appreciate any guidance you have to offer.
Thank you, Julie