Article Discussion: Jewish Men Are From Mars

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[Brianne K. Nadeau]

Julie, I love this. It's got me thinking in a whole different way.

[Disa]

I am a long-term girlfriend of a Jewish man, contemplating bringing my future children up as jews. Just as you describe in your article, I am from a religious home, and want us to share a religion, rather Judaism than no religion at all. But I do think that this is far more important to me than him. While I am missing a religious identity he is happy being a non-religious Jew.

[David]

You didn't cover men like myself, who are "religious light". I do want to celebrate all Jewish holidays, and I want my children to be aware of their Jewish origins. But I do not want to spend my weekends in Shul, and I do want to use electricity on Shabat, and drive around to nature with the family and enjoy my life.

However, I want a wife who has the same values I admire, which are family values, living by jewish philosophy, being a great mother, being modest, having aspirations of self realization, creativity, honor and respect, the seeking of wisdom and knowledge, respect for your husband, etc.

I am sorry to say that if I look at most non-orthodox Jewish women in America, I see horribly spoiled girls with little to no values, no modesty, no seeking of knowledge and wisdom, worship of material goods, hedonistic behaviors, disrespect to her heritage, etc. (some, or all of the above, in various horrible combinations). There is a reason the term JAP was invented, and I am sad to admit it's true to life!

This sad state of affairs leaves me with two options:

1) Give up on marrying a Jewish woman, and instead marry an Asian woman who has amazing family values, is loyal, seeks wisdom, will be a great mother, and help her husband in their shared goals, rather than spend her Sundays at the beauty salon, and use her man for his money and dump him when he's older. Raise the Children as Jewish, do the holidays, and live a Jewish life in general, but be happy, and not suffer the horrible life of living with a JAP.

2) Turn ultra-orthodox, and become part of an orthodox community, where finding such a woman is much easier (almost the default). Then raise amazing children, in a house built on respect and jewish philosophies. But this also means morphing into something I am not, and losing all that I ever was and all that I valued.

So do I really want go for #2? I don't think so... I will just go with #1, and live a happy life.

[Unregistered]

Hi So I am a female, 29 and living in NYC. I recently met an indian man ( not hindu) but catholic from india. He has been living in NYC I am crazy about him but feel if I were to take the relationship further our religions and cultures will clash. I dated jewish men and they were horrible, controlling and momma boys. I like the indian guy he is sweet, cute, smart and makes me happy. What do I do?