Article Discussion: Saying I Do to an Interfaith Wedding

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[Deborah]

Thank-you so much for sharing your story. Wow. I could only imagine what you faced. I have been seriously dating a Jewish guy for the last year and now we live together. Our "big" life decisions are comfortable for us but many in our family do not agree. I think of how a wedding one day would be for him and I and I always think it would be impossible but your story gives me hope. Thank-you again.

[Alena]

I am curious, 9 years later. have you had children and how are you raising them? what other events have you had to negotiate. its one thing to talk about a wedding but I always wonder how things turn out down the road.

[Virginia May Reynolds]

Yes, the thing about children can be difficult, but in my particular case (weather that's any use or not) my husband is very liberal (he's the Jewish one).  Well, I gather that someone who married a Wiccan is liberal!!! lol Our boy is now only two but we intend and agreed to bring him up Jewish but of course with true understanding if he decides to depart for any other faith, a combination or non at all.  Dan and I are spiritual in essence so we would be a little upset if my son chose none but we agreed from the start that that is his choice!  I wouldn't want anyone pretending to believe for the sake of it; not being a member of the community in some capacity might be different, if this makes any sense...

[Virginia May Reynolds]

I',m a member of the Jewish community, although they know I'm different, other... and that has given me a lot of comfort on many occasions!

[Leah Singer]

Thank you all for your comments! It's been nine years, and we do have a 3-year-old daughter who is being raised Jewish, even attending Jewish preschool. We'd had a great partnership with respect to negotiating our religions in that it really hasn't been a negotiation. We identify as Jewish. But we also celebrate Christmas with Bryan's family so Sophie has that aspect as well. I know I've been very lucky and we've worked hard to have a partnership like this that works for our family.

[Virginia May Reynolds]

I'm so glad it has all worked out so well for you.  I'm very fortunate too in terms of my family and Dan.  Dan, my husband, was orphaned aged  5 and used to come to my family for Christmas although he was raised Jewish by his aunt.  It all became very bonding and wow, I certainly didn't expect them to end up married to him!