Relationships
I Chose a Non-Jew--and the Non-Jew Chose JudaismBy Lyssa Friedman
A personal narrative of a woman whose partner converted to Judaism while she remained conflicted.
Go To LGBTQ RelationshipsDear Rabbi,
I know that many rabbis will not officiate at an interfaith marriage. But if the non-Jewish partner has converted to Judaism, is that considered a legal, binding union in the Jewish faith? Will most rabbis officiate the marriage of a converted Jew to a Jew? Or it still considered "interfaith" if one of the partners was not a Jew by birth?
Thank you.
Shalom,
Francine
Dear Francine,
Thank you for your inquiry.
According to the Mishnah (one of the earliest codes of Jewish law, and the basis for the Talmud), a convert is a Jew no less than is a person born Jewish, and to remind a convert of their former status is a sin. Consequently a marriage between a Jew who was born Jewish and a Jew who chose Judaism is not an intermarriage at all, and would indeed be performed by a traditional rabbi in accordance with halakhah (Jewish law). If a Jew and a non-Jew marry and the non-Jew subsequently converts to Judaism, then the couple could choose to follow up with a religious Jewish wedding ceremony (chuppah ve-kiddushin).
B'virkat Shalom,
Rabbi Artson
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