The First Time I Sat Shiva–With My Baby

Sam and I have been together for almost five years, but Jewish memorial services and sitting shiva are still a new ritual for me.  Attending memorial services and shiva are a completely different experience with Jack. The first time I went to sit shiva with Sam, was about a year and a half ago. I […]

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Listening to Christian Spirituals at the Jewish Cemetery

On my mom’s birthday last week, I left the house to go to the cemetery first thing. Being there, walking in the always slightly-moist, lush grass in front of her monument can provide a moment of peace on special days. But getting there feels brutally un-special—sitting in my “mom car” driving the same roads I […]

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Liz and baby Helen

Mourning, Friendship and the Future

There is a way to mourn in Judaism and then there is what really happens over the years

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Jewish Mourning: A Lesson for My Newborn

When I was 8 years old I had a good friend who lived around the corner from me. His name was Nachshon. We took the same school bus to school and at the Orthodox Yeshiva we attended we were in the same class. I went to his house often after school to play video games […]

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Grief in the Days of Awe

Two weeks ago, I wrote that I didn’t know yet what I would do for Yom Kippur. In the end, the Books of Life and Death helped me answer that question. Just before Yom Kippur, a beloved relative in my husband’s family passed away after a brief illness. On Erev Yom Kippur, we found ourselves driving the […]

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