Shabbat (with Kids) Cheat Sheet

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If you’re new to Judaism, or looking to learn how to share more Jewish practices with your family, Shabbat is a great place to start. It’s the Jewish holiday that happens every week, encouraging you and your family to take time to rest and relax, to enjoy family and friends, and to put all those to-do lists, work and daily worries aside. Shabbat offers time for much need perspective after a busy week, a spiritual day that feels different than every other day. There are infinite ways to celebrate this weekly holiday and just as many reasons to create this safe, easy space in the life of your family.

What is Shabbat?

The concept of Shabbat comes from the very first chapters of the book of Genesis in the Bible, when God created the world in six days and then rested on the seventh.

Shabbat begins at sun down on Friday night and ends on Saturday evening, traditionally when the sun has set and three stars are visible in the night sky. Jewish law and tradition also dictate a wide variety of other practices, each with their own blessing, including lighting two Shabbat candles, drinking wine and eating challah, a special and delicious egg bread.

Around the world, every community, every family, has their own Shabbat traditions. There is not one single way to celebrate Shabbat, so don’t worry that you’re going to do it incorrectly. Shabbat can be a time to eat a special meal, to ask your family about their past week and the week ahead, to feel gratitude for those around you and just to breathe. People of all faiths can join in your Shabbat rituals.

Where do I start?

First, remember that Shabbat is always there for the taking and that it does not require special food, flowers, clothes or music. So take one step at a time, start small, one blessing, one family question, something that makes this day different from all the other days of the week.

Many families also choose to celebrate Shabbat with their synagogue communities on Friday nights or Saturday mornings. This can be a great way to feel connected to other families and enhance your Shabbat experience.  There are also many traditions and rituals that have evolved that you can include in your home celebration. Remember that all these traditions and rituals were created to enrich and enhance the celebration of Shabbat. Some might work for your family, some might not. They are a good place to begin, but you can surely add your own traditions or ideas. Shabbat happens every week, no matter what, so you’ll have plenty of opportunities to figure out what works best.

Many people choose to begin by gathering the entire family for Friday night dinner. With the pressures of long hours on the job and lengthy commutes, sports practices, appointments, household tasks, etc., having a relaxing family dinner is a great start to the weekend. Every family has different traditions for their Shabbat meal. Just remember, the goal of Shabbat dinner is not what’s on the menu (that can be its own source of stress!), but rather the intention of the meal. So roast a chicken, order a pizza, go out to your favorite restaurant and appreciate the time you have together. Shabbat is a wonderful time to celebrate your family’s cultural differences. Find interesting multicultural recipes here.

 

Traditions and Rituals

The Candles

Child with Shabbat candlesFriday evening is a time to awaken all your senses around the dinner table. But before you eat, tradition tells us to pause and acknowledge that this evening is different. We set two candles out and as we light them we invite Shabbat to enter our home and surround our family with rest and joy. While postponing dinner can be tricky with little ones, you might find that they enjoy this special ritual.

Some families observe the custom to light the candles and then cover your eyes while saying the blessing. This gives your family a chance to see the world transformed by the light of the candles when your eyes are opened at the end of the blessing. Some wave their hands over the candles as if scooping up the holiness of the flames. Either way, your kids will get into the hand motions. Two candles are traditional but some families add extra candles for every family member.

בְָּרוּךְ אַתָּה יי

אֶלֹהֵנוּ מֶלֶךְ הָעוֹלָם

אֲשֶׁר קִדְּשָׁנוּ בְּמִצוֹתָיו וְצִוָּנוּ

וְצִוָּנוּ

לְהַדְלִיק נֵר שֶׁל שַׁבָּת.

Baruch atah, Adonai, Eloheinu, melech haolam, asher kid’shanu b’mitzvotav, v’tzivanu l’hadlik ner shel Shabbat.

Blessed are you, Adonai our God, Sovereign of the universe, who makes us holy and commands us to kindle the light of Shabbat.

Once we welcome Shabbat by lighting the candles, it is traditional to offer blessings to our family, to those around us, who are sharing Shabbat with us. Below is the traditional Hebrew blessing for children and other guests, but if it doesn’t speak to you or you aren’t comfortable speaking Hebrew or with God language, feel free to offer your own special words of gratitude and blessing to your friends and family.

Children’s Blessing:

This traditional blessing recalls our Biblical ancestors in the hopes that our children will be like our strong, compassionate, foremothers and fathers as they grow.

Y’simeich Elohim k’Sarah, k’Rivkah, k’Rachel, ooch’Leah.

Y’simcha Elohim k’Efrayim v’chi-Menasheh.

May God make you like Sarah, Rebecca, Rachel and Leah.

May God make you like Ephraim and Menasheh.

Blessing for All:

יְבָרֶכְךָ יי וְיִשְׁמְרֶךָ

יָאֵר יי פָּנָיו אֵלֶיךָ וִיחֻנֶּךָּ

יִשָׂא יי פָּנָיו אֵלֶיךָ

וְיָשֵׂם לְךָ שָׁלוֹם.

Y’varechecha Adonai V’yish’m’recha.
Ya’er Adonai panav eilecha vichuneka.
Yisa Adonai panav eilecha v’yasem l’cha shalom.

May God bless you and keep you
May God’s light shine upon you and be gracious to you
May the presence of God be with you and give you peace.

Blessing over the Wine/Grape Juice – The Kiddish

Judaism often sanctifies and celebrates joyous occasions with wine. Whether with your favorite vintage or a sweet cup of grape juice, we are reminded to always find joy and reasons for gratitude each week. Many people use a special cup, often called a Kiddish Cup, for Shabbat wine, as another way to make Shabbat different from other days of the week.

בְָּרוּךְ אַתָּה יי
אֶלֹהֵנוּ מֶלֶךְ הָעוֹלָם

בּוֹרֵא פְּרִי הַגָפֶּן.

Baruch atah, Adonai Eloheinu, Melech Haolam, borei p’ri hagafen.

Blessed are You, Adonai our God, Sovereign of the universe,
Creator of the fruit of the vine.

 

Saying the hamotziBlessing over the Challah – Ha-Motzi

Challah is special bread for Shabbat. It can come in many shapes and sizes and even flavors. It can be a fun activity to make with your kids but you can certainly also pick it up at many local grocery stores. If you can’t find it locally or just are having a busy week, you can use any bread product.

Some of us choose to tear the challah apart and pass pieces around to each guest after saying the prayer. Others prefer to slice the challah and pass it around on a special Shabbat platter.

Before blessing and eating the challah, it is traditional to wash your hands. This ritual washing reminds us that eating has spiritual potential. It reminds us of how fortunate we are to have food and to be together to share it.

 

בְָּרוּךְ אַתָּה יי
אֶלֹהֵנוּ מֶלֶךְ הָעוֹלָם

הַמוֹצִיא לֶחֶם

מִן הָאָרֶץ.

Baruch Atah Adonai, Eloheinu Melech haolam, Hamotzi lechem min haaretz.

Blessed are You, Eternal our God, Sovereign of the universe, Who brings forth bread from the earth.

Once the blessings are said, sit back, relax and enjoy your Shabbat meal with your family. Take the time to ask about everyone’s day and really listen to the answer, plan a walk outside after dinner or the next day, think about the things in your week you’d like the leave behind and those things you are looking forward to in the week to come. Smile, laugh, breathe and relax. On Shabbat we have the opportunity to just be, to have the (sometimes) rare opportunity for the whole family to eat together, to appreciate the family we are part of, the people we love.

Finally, on Shabbat we greet each other by saying, Shabbat Shalom, which means, Peaceful Shabbat. So however your Shabbat looks, may it be a day of rest and peace for you and your family. Shabbat Shalom!

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About Rabbi Jillian Cameron

Rabbi Jillian Cameron is the director of InterfaithFamily/Boston and was ordained at Hebrew Union College - Jewish Institute of Religion in 2012 after receiving a Master's Degree in Jewish Education in 2008.