Death and Mourning


You’re in an interfaith family and a relative dies. How do you pay a shiva call or approach going to a wake for the first time? How does a Jewish funeral work and how do you plan one? If you’ve converted, should you still maintain the rituals of your relative’s religion? Death is painful enough without dealing with religious conflict. Learn how others have dealt with this difficult time and find resources to guide you. logoOur partners at provide an easy-to-use, efficient resource to help family members, friends, colleagues and acquaintances honor the passing of loved ones. The site carefully blends centuries-old religious traditions with modern-day customs to help people support others, communicate and mourn. offers extensive information as well as guidance about various topics, including what are appropriate items to send and words to express condolences. The site additionally includes information about how and where to send messages, food, platters and donations, as well as a directory of trusted vendors to help reduce the stress that often accompanies making such arrangements.

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If you are in an interfaith family, you may be coping with some unusual circumstances around death and mourning, facing more firsts than the average mourner. Our Guide to Death and Mourning for Interfaith Families will answer your questions.

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Our Mourning the loss of a Jewish loved one booklet will help you navigate through important decisions to be made and also provides an explanation of the different traditional mourning ritual practices.


Explaining the Jewish custom of shiva (the first week of mourning), what to expect, and appropriate behavior when paying a shiva call (going to the mourner’s home), this is one of the most popular resources on our site: How to Pay A Shiva Call.

What to Say

Like many cultures and religions, Judaism has it’s own phrases for times of joy and times of sorrow. Learn what to say (and avoid saying) when you see someone on a sad occasion with our Jewish Greeting Cheat Sheet.

From Others

Looking for advice? Wondering how others mourned in different religions or planned family members’ funerals? Our article archive has plenty of resources: