Jewish Clergy Referral Service FAQ


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Frequently Asked Questions 

You’ve got questions and we’ve got answers. Learn more about InterfaithFamily’s Jewish Clergy Referral Service here. 

How does it work? 

Here’s a quick look at how the Jewish Clergy Referral Service works: 

  1. The first step is to fill out our Jewish clergy request form. It helps if you fill it out completely with all the information you have.  
  2. Once submitted, our team will get started on creating a customized list of rabbis and cantors for you based on the information you have provided. 
  3. You’ll then receive an email from us with a list of Jewish clergy who you have matched with, and their contact information, including their city, phone number and email address. 
  4. From there, you can reach out to them. Let them know that InterfaithFamily sent you. Set up a time to talk or meet to find out if they’re able to officiate the ceremony you’re looking for. 
  5. Last step, be sure to let us know if our service helped you connect to a rabbi or cantor. And check out for more helpful resources. 

Will my information be shared? 

Don’t worry, your information won’t be shared outside of InterfaithFamily. We provide you with the contact information of Jewish clergy but we won’t share your private information with them. For more information, visit our privacy policy. 

How should I pick a rabbi from the list you provided me? 

Great question! First, if you’ve chosen a date for your event, make sure they are available. We supply a list based on the answers you provided when you submitted the form. It’s important that you share details with us that are crucial to the ceremony, for example, if your ceremony will happen before sundown on Saturday (some rabbis will not officiate weddings on Shabbat) or if you’re looking for a rabbi/cantor who will incorporate traditions from other religions. If you did not include this information in your initial request, please email us and we can send you back a refined list. 

It is always best to check with each clergy for other ceremonial details such as co-officiation and fees.  Prices vary greatly but most are between $500 to $1,500. Consider asking how many meetings they’ll have with you before the event and if they have a minimum number of meeting requirements. Most importantly, determine if they are a good fit for you and your partner or family and if they’ll be able to provide the type of experience you are looking for. 

If you are planning an interfaith wedding, check out this article about finding an officiant and choosing a date. 

Will your list of rabbis/cantors officiate for my LGBTQ event? 

At InterfaithFamily, we value inclusion and diversity. It’s so important to us that we only accept rabbis or cantors on our referral list who will officiate for LGBTQ couples and families. This gives you peace of mind when looking for Jewish clergy for your event. We also have an LGBTQ resource page with lots of great articles and tips to help you along the way.  

I’m looking for a wedding officiant for my destination wedding. Will you be able to help? 

Of course! We’ll send you a list of Jewish clergy who live or are willing to travel internationally to your destination wedding. Just select “International” as your event area and specify the event location in our request form. 

What is the cost to use this service? 

Thanks to the generosity of our InterfaithFamily supporters, it’s our pleasure to provide this service free of charge. We’re always grateful for those who choose to pay it forward and donate to InterfaithFamily as thanks for helping to connect them to a rabbi/cantor. 

Can I fill out a request if I’m not the person that the event is for? 

Sure you can. Just select who the event is for when filling out the request form (your child, another family member, or someone else). 

How much do the rabbis or cantors charge? 

As far as the cost for having a Jewish clergy officiate your ceremony, each rabbi and cantor sets their own price. This is a question you should feel comfortable asking them once you determine if that rabbi/cantor is a good fit for you. Price varies greatly depending on the experience level of the Jewish clergy, the location, the number of pre-event meetings they require, and other factors. 

What impact does the Jewish Clergy Referral Service have? 

Our referral service connects over 2,000 couples and families a year to interfaith-friendly Jewish clergy. Whether the need is for a wedding, baby naming or funeral, we’re here to offer our help and expertise for some of the most important moments in life. InterfaithFamily is the premier resource supporting interfaith couples and families exploring Jewish life and inclusive Jewish communities. 

I know a great rabbi/cantor who I want to recommend. How can they join InterfaithFamily’s referral list? 

We’re so excited to hear that. You can pass this link to our intake form to the Jewish clergy you recommend. Once they fill it out, we’ll review their eligibility to see if it meets our standards and hopefully, add them to our list of referred rabbis from there. 

What are your eligibility requirements for rabbis/cantors on your referral list? 

All rabbis and cantors on our list must officiate for interfaith couples/families and LGBTQ couples/families, have an ordination from one of our approved rabbinical schools (we also accept private ordination), and not be censured or suspended by their rabbinic or cantorial associations. In order to ensure we are connecting you with helpful, responsive and qualified clergy, InterfaithFamily reserves the right to remove clergy from our referral list who receive negative feedback from couples/families who we recommended to them.  

How can I get more involved with InterfaithFamily? 

Interested in joining one of our local or national boards, hosting a fundraiser to support our mission, becoming a guest blogger or learning about other volunteer opportunities? Shoot us an email at and join us in creating inclusive Jewish communities.


Do you have other questions? Contact Nicole Wasilus – Director of Lifecycle Connections at 

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