Referral Service Clergy FAQ


wedding officiationFrequently Asked Questions (For Jewish Clergy) 

You’ve got questions and we’ve got answers. Learn more about InterfaithFamily’s Jewish Clergy Referral Service here. 

 How does this work? 

Here’s a quick look at how our Jewish Clergy Referral Service works: 

  1. The first step is to fill out our Jewish clergy form. 
  2. Once submitted, our team will review the information you provided to see if you meet our eligibility requirements. 
  3. You’ll then receive an email from us letting you know if you were accepted onto our referral lists. We’ll verify the listing of your name and contact information. 
  4. From there, we’ll share your information with interfaith couples and families looking for a rabbi/cantor in your area (or in areas you indicated you travel to) for lifecycle events that you’ve noted you officiate. They will email you directly – we tell them to let you know that InterfaithFamily sent them to you. 
  5. Be sure to let us know if you officiate for a couple or family that we‘ve connected you to. And tell them to look to see if there are Love and Religion workshops and meetups happening in their community 
  6. Check out our Resource Center for Jewish clergy for helpful materials such as sample ceremonies and readings intended to support you and your work with interfaith families.

 What are the eligibility requirements to join? 

To be eligible, you must fit these criteria: 

  • You must be willing to officiate lifecycle events for interfaith couples and families. 
  • You must be a rabbi or cantor. 
  • You must be ordained by one of the following institutions: The Academy for Jewish Religion, AJU, ALEPH, Hebrew College, Hebrew Seminary, HUC-JIR, IISHJ, JTS, Leo Baeck, RRC, Yeshivat Chovevei Torah, and YU. We currently accept private ordinations on a case by case basis, but don’t accept ordinations from online rabbinical schools. 
  • You must officiate for LGBTQ+ couples and families. 
  • You must not be censured or suspended by a rabbinical or cantorial association. There must not be any credible public allegations of bad behavior. 

 Do I need to be a member of a clergy association? 

No, you do not need to be a member of a clergy association to be listed with us. 

 Do I have to co-officate 

No, you don’t have to co-officiate to be included on our referral list. We ask couples if they are seeking co-officiation and only recommend rabbis who are comfortable with this practice.  

 Will InterfaithFamily ever remove someone from the referral list? 

InterfaithFamily reserves the right to remove any clergy from the referral list at any time. Reasons for removal include repeated negative feedback received from couples and families to who we’ve referred them, public allegations of bad behavior or suspension by a rabbinical or cantorial association. 

What’s the cost to join? 

Currently, we do not charge couples/families or clergy for use of this service. We’re always grateful for those clergy who choose to donate to InterfaithFamily to thank us for helping to connect them with opportunities for hire. 

Who sets the price for the services I offer? 

Good question! You do. We let couples know that clergy set their own price and that prices vary greatly depending on the experience level of the Jewish clergy, the location, the number of pre-event meetings they require, and other factors. We tell them that, on average, the cost is between $500-$1,500. 

Will I receive a list of couples and families to get in touch with? 

No, we will provide your name and contact information to couples & families for whom you are an appropriate match, based on their request. They can then contact you via email or phone to get more information or set up a time to talk. 

How do I update my contact information? 

Easy! To update your contact information or any information you originally submitted, email us at and let us know what changes to make. 

I know a great rabbi/cantor who I want to recommend. How can they join InterfaithFamily’s referral list? 

We’re so excited to hear that. You can pass this link to our intake form to the Jewish clergy you recommend. Once they fill it out, we’ll review their eligibility to see if it meets our standards. and hopefully, add them to our list of referred rabbis from there. 

I know an interfaith couple or family who needs a Jewish clergy for an upcoming lifecycle event. How do they submit a request? 

You can direct them to fill out our Jewish clergy request form. From there, our team will create and send them a customized list of rabbis and cantors based on the information they provide. 

What additional resources does InterfaithFamily provide to interfaith couples? 

If you’re looking for some additional resources that complement your work with an individual, couple or family, we’ve got it! InterfaithFamily offers several in-person opportunities in local communities where partners can connect with each other and other couples. Check here to see if our Love and Religion workshops and meetups are happening in your area. These events offer couples the chance to have important conversations around religion in their lives in a safe, supportive and fun environment.

We also have resources available online including easy-to-understand booklets for different lifecycle events, wedding and parenting blogs, email series that help cover the basics, and so much more! There are also plenty of opportunities for folks you’re working with to connect to other interfaith couples and families in a supportive online community. We have active Facebook groups on parenting and wedding planning.

What impact does the Jewish Clergy Referral Service have? 

Our referral service connects over 2,000 couples and families a year to interfaith-friendly Jewish clergy. Whether the need is for a wedding, baby naming, funeral or other lifecycle events, we’re here to offer our help and expertise for some of the most important moments in life. InterfaithFamily is the premier resource supporting interfaith couples and families exploring Jewish life and inclusive Jewish communities. 

How can I get more involved with InterfaithFamily? 

Interested in joining one of our local or national boards, hosting a fundraiser to support our mission, becoming a guest blogger or learning about other volunteer opportunities? Shoot us an email at

Or maybe you want to get more training and experience working with interfaith couples. Learn more about applying to our Rukin Rabbinic Fellowship.

And if you’re looking to bring this work to your organization, check out our professional development offerings including the Interfaith Inclusion Leadership Initiative (IILI). It’s a year-long program designed to help Jewish institutions and organizations to more fully embrace interfaith couples and families and expand their supportive policies and practices.


Do you have other questions? Contact Nicole Wasilus – Director of Lifecycle Connections at