Uncharted territory: planning a Jewish Chinese wedding
When planning a wedding, communication is key. You’ll be communicating with one or more of the following: clergy or other officiant, a wedding planner, florist, caterer, DJ or band, relatives and many others. But most importantly, you have to communicate with your partner.
By Lynda Barness You are now engaged! NOW WHAT? Here are five things to consider before jumping in, from a Master Wedding Planner: 1. Breathe. I’m not kidding! Take some time to enjoy your engagement—and each other. And your families. And your friends. 2. Get to work. When you are ready to start working (and yes, […]
Finding a wedding officiant that is a right fit is an important part of planning that special day. The following are brief descriptions of wedding ceremonies of interfaith couples I know (all names have been changed) who were married in recent months: Matthew and Stacie were married by a rabbi* in a ceremony that was very […]
I had a dream last night that I was officiating a wedding of an interfaith couple. It wasn’t a particularly strange situation: A lovely couple stood in front of their family and friends. The bride was in a gorgeous white gown, the groom in a nice black tuxedo. The three of us stood there, under […]
It’s 1972. An off-duty, dark haired young cabbie drives by a young blond woman. Slowing down and noticing that the woman is attractive, he switches his light to “on duty” and backs up to pick her up. He drops her off at the school where she teaches, then watches as she walks in. Flash forward […]
I don’t want anyone to panic, but we’re nearly at the six-month mark. Six months until….holy moly matrimony. Luckily, we’ve figured a few things out. Like that big question: who will officiate the ceremony? One of the pieces of InterfaithFamily’s work that I’m most excited about is how they work with couples to find officiants […]
With guests from Australia, France, Germany, Italy, Russia, Thailand and the U.S. present, Nad and Alex’s wedding was easily one of the most cosmopolitan I had ever officiated. With a fairly traditional inclusive Jewish ceremony, bookended by Thai customs, it was definitely one of the most intercultural. Throw in the fact that I was upstaged by an elephant, and you have the backdrop for a great story!
Personal narrative in which engaged couple negotiates over what kind of ceremony and officiant to have. She, an agnostic, wants no mention of God. He, a Jew, wants a rabbi and a Jewish wedding ceremony. They find a “Humanist-leaning rabbi”
Finding your officiant(s) and choosing a date