How to Find a Wedding Officiant Who’s the Right Fit for You

Finding a wedding officiant that is a right fit is an important part of planning that special day. The following are brief descriptions of wedding ceremonies of interfaith couples I know (all names have been changed) who were married in recent months: Matthew and Stacie were married by a rabbi* in a ceremony that was very […]

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What’s the Right Holiday Greeting?

I have to say that I have mixed feelings about “the holiday season.” While I love the beauty of the lights and decorations, it can feel a bit overwhelming and ostracizing to someone who did not grow up celebrating Christmas. And then what to do when someone wishes me—a Jew—a “merry Christmas”? How to reply? […]

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Turn Jew and I’ll Marry You

This blog post was reprinted with permission from Red Said What?  By Jennifer Reinharz Larry and I struck our deal over Sicilian pie. “Turn Jew and I’ll marry you.” I shook my head.  “You’re crazy.” “Then raise the kids Jewish.” Bringing up nonexistent children in a faith other than my own seemed easier to digest […]

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Bar Mitzvah Young Man Reading the Torah

Creating a Comfortable Bar or Bat Mitzvah for Interfaith Families: Some Thoughts

Professional advice for interfaith families on how to appropriately include family in the bar/bat mitzvah service and/or celebration afterward.

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Other Tips for Before the Ceremony

Advice from a rabbi on how to prepare non-Jewish guests for a bar mitzvah or bat mitzvah.

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How I Helped My Wife Mourn for Her Mother

Personal narrative about how a Jewish man helped his wife, a Jew-by-choice, mourn for her Catholic mother, which included his giving a eulogy at the mother’s Catholic funeral.

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Facing the December Dilemma: Guidelines for Interfaith Couples

Professional view consolidating common concerns facing interfaith families around Christmas and Hanukkah, guidelines for negotiating the December Dilemma, and tips for how to decide the best option for your family.

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Ten Tips to Avoiding Conflict in an Interfaith Marriage

An advice article giving ten tips for having a successful interfaith marriage– including communication, participation and planning.

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Israel: Yours, Mine…or Ours?

Professional advice from a rabbi on how to talk about Israel in an interfaith family, with guidelines for discussion questions.

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